Most Important Things Women Should Know About Men to Keep the Relationship Going

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Amazing. I believe the phrase "Don't try to change him" needs to be challenged; we really need to think about this long held and widely-spread dictum for women. "Don't try to change him" needs to be clarified and elaborated upon; if a man is one who is not very keen on personal hygiene and has odor issues, "Don't try to change him" is not appropriate. Here is a start: most men know that they are not perfect or infallible, and most who are honest would admit they have need of improvement in various areas and in various ways; so here you have knowing that they are not infallible and need improvement and that they do things are not the best or not good and that there are some things that need to change, but they tell women they don't need to change so don't try to change him. How exactly do you improve without changing? I like to keep these conversations to a human dynamic because I truly believe it is more about how humans treat humans regardless of gender more times than not, and that most of the male-specific advice given to women on how to deal with men neglects simple realities and basic codes of dignity for all people--not just men. Humans learn and grown and become better by changing what is wrong about them or defective ways of dealing, and that happens as a natural outcome of interacting with others--male or female. "Don't try to change him" is not something some national so-called relationship expert should be telling all women about all men--but we see that all the time, it's BS. Adults handle their own relationships one-on-one and simply communicate.

No problem: if in fact he is doing something admirable and doesn't need a fresh dose of ostentatious or outward expression of, "I admire you" obsessively--like every single day or multiple times every single day--a woman might forget. Admire you, no problem, as long as you do not behave as though your very manhood is crumbling because someone failed to complement you on or notice something in particular that you were seeking to impress with--no mature, loving woman wants that. People are busy and may not always give you the response you want when you want it, and the sooner we all submit to that reality the better.

Most mature women would likely love to demonstrate to you that you are center of her attention, b-buuut, the man has to be wiling to do the same for the woman. Lots of men are notorious for behaving as though their career is their very identity and neglecting the ones they SAY they love and are doing everything for to push it in their respective career fields. And again, if she does have something she's doing that ACTUALLY IS more important than him, at the time, then this is not appropriate. There is a time for everything.

Agreed. It's just stupid to demean or ridicule a person's efforts when they are being true to their grind. The "his masculinity" part needs to be clarified and explained by each man to his own woman in their adult relationship. This kind of advice is only effective with clarification of terms.

This is one of the characteristics Men are looking for in a woman.

So true. There are plenty of males out there that will take every bit of "help" she's giving, lay up on her, eat her food, let her pay for everything and then dis her because he doesn't respect himself. No, let him figure it out; give him a map and then step back.

Again, needs elaboration and clarification. Mother is a different representation in the minds of different people. Just talk to your own woman, you know. National, blanket, generalized advice is rarely appropriate for man-woman relationships. Let's all just be adults and communicate the terms of the association directly with the person we say we love.

What does this mean "act as if"? What if a woman just IS wiser and/or more brave than the man in question? What about the idea of just BEING rather than ACTING.

A woman wants a man to have a belly-less appearance, and to not justify being out-of-shape and unattractive and excuse himself in his mind because he has money. Anyone who applies him or herself can get money, so that is no excuse. Money is not identity.

That's actually true, though men who have been raised to be "macho" may deny it.

What things? And why are you giving women instructions on what to do with THEIR men? Men are not infallible. When you love someone you do whatever is in their best interest and don't make everything about proving you are right.

Surely. I don't keep friends like that, don't keep that kind of company. I don't go into detail when the topic of my man does arise. I'm sure my man does the same for me--not getting into a whole, "Yeah, man I've got her trained--screaming my name..." bit with other men.

"Never talk to your friend about him", not true, and let me tell you why: because a man probably wants a woman to talk to her friends about how she admires him and all the wonderful exploits he's performing at work.

Um, but women are not children. What exactly is the "Childlike Way". Seems to me a childlike way is appropriate for, well, a child. What is this about?